Connecticut-based geriatric caregiver and singer Cathy Colmenares experienced financial hardship during the pandemic. Setting her expectations meant choosing to send less money to her family and friends in Venezuela.
“I didn’t mind having no money, as long as I could send money to help,” she said. She ‘has to put herself and her family first’
make a budget
Setting a budget can help prevent vacation stress, Brendel says.
“Making a decision and sticking to it really saves you the regret and stress after the spending happens and the January bills start coming in,” she said.
She recommends prioritizing who receives individual gifts and organizing gift games with the rest of your loved ones, such as white elephants and gift pools. encourages family members to be able to say what they really want.
If you’re looking for a budget template, Microsoft Office offers a version focused on holiday spending.
Instead of spending a lot of money, you have several options. They include:
One of Brendel’s favorite homemade gifts is a cocktail mason jar. Simply place the cocktail ingredients into a mason jar and the recipient adds water or alcohol.
This year, Massachusetts-based resident doctor Lena Liu, 29, plans to gift handmade bracelets to her friends.
“It can be very thoughtful and it’s actually not that expensive,” Liu said. I know that, and I really appreciate that.”
Gift cards may seem impersonal, but Foster argues that they’re a great way to stay on budget because you can plan the exact amount to spend on each card.
When a patient consults Karen Lynn Cassiday, managing director of the Anxiety Treatment Center in Greater Chicago, about the financial stress of vacationing, the first advice she gives is to give experiences, not items.
“Each person’s deepest need is to be known, heard and seen,” Cassidy said. “Doing something with them and doing something for them is invaluable.”
You can also gift a photo shoot, framed photo or digital album to commemorate the happy experience.
gift of time
If you can’t afford to take your parents on vacation or visit them, giving them more time can be a true gift.
Whether you’re planning a weekly video call with a group of friends or calling your grandma every day, Menninger suggests thinking about non-monetary gifts that your loved ones will appreciate.
build your own tradition
The expectations and traditions you grew up with, such as buying expensive gifts for all members of your extended family, can cause stress during the holidays. I can do it.
This year, 22-year-old Valentina Chavez Otero of Norwalk, Connecticut, plans to celebrate the holidays by spending the day in New York City.
Chavez Otero, who has been facing financial instability since moving with her boyfriend from Cali, Colombia, said, “I’m not really into celebrating Christmas. I just want to walk the day and see new things.” It’s just,” he said.
With inflation making holiday meals even more expensive than usual, one way to cut costs is for hosts to avoid having to cover the full cost of the meal.
If your parents, grandparents, aunts, or friends are hosting at their home, you can suggest that they all bring food, Brendel said.
“A potluck is always fun. It can take the stress out of preparing for one person and lighten the load on the organizer,” she said. “Those kinds of ideas can really reduce the financial burden and stress.”
If you’re having financial troubles, talk to your family and friends, Brendel said.
After six months of battling himself, Liu, who was diagnosed with anxiety and depression during his first year as a resident, now feels more comfortable talking to his family. increase.
“I’m of Chinese ethnicity, but in our culture, talking about mental health is totally stigmatized,” Liu said.
Her parents and twin sister helped her through difficult times. I would like it to be more open.
practice a healthy routine
While your stress may stem from financial problems, negative emotions can spill over into other aspects of your life and make it harder to enjoy your vacation.
Menninger recommends taking a break from social gatherings and Christmas shopping and doing something for yourself, like exercise or meditation.
If you tend to forget to take a breath, Menninger recommends adding an alarm to your phone to remind you. The best time for alone time is between 4pm and 6pm.
For Lori Lebson, a 41-year-old mom from Massachusetts, it’s important to go for a run sometime during the day, even if it means waking up a little earlier than the kids.
Over the past few months, sleepless Chavez Otero has been watching sleep meditations on YouTube to ease his anxiety. Liu’s favorite relaxing activity is doing yoga before and after her hospital shift.
Liu also practices journaling, where she writes down things she’s grateful for in life.
Getting enough sleep is also important, so Menninger recommends turning off electronics a few hours before bed.
Seek professional help if needed
If you have mental health issues, there are several resources you can use to get professional help.
In the US, you can dial 211 to speak confidentially and toll-free with a mental health professional.
Other mental health resources include:
Veterans Crisis Line: Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
Crisis Text Line: Text the word “home” to 741-741.
Trevor Lifeline for LGBTQ Youth: 1-866-488-7386
Trans Lifeline: 1-877-565-8860