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However you define the current state of relationships in your life, Valentine’s Day is a great time to reflect on the many ways love forms in our lives. Every relationship we have contributes to our sense of meaning and purpose, and it’s worth celebrating.
Whether you’re spending Valentine’s Day with your life partner or with a group of friends, these Valentine’s Day date ideas will make your day extra special. They range from sexy to cute to cool and can create a special quality time for a new couple’s first date or a long-term relationship. You can also enjoy it alone if that’s what works best for you at your current stage of life. There are also things you can do at home.
It’s important to remember that meaningful dating isn’t about choosing the “perfect” activity, it’s about consciously choosing to celebrate and grow the emotional connections that already exist. It can literally transform any activity into something magical. The date itself is simply a vessel that illuminates the love that already exists and helps transform the world into a kinder, more caring and loving place. Read on for 34 ways to spend your day.
Valentine’s Day date ideas that focus on health and wellness
- journal. Grab your stationery, find a quiet place to sit together, and write either free-form or with the assistance of guided prompts. After that, you can talk about what you wrote. This exercise allows you to check in with your partner and yourself to see how you feel and what you need. You can also do this solo.
- Try a yoga date. Different studios offer a variety of alternative classes, from goat yoga to acro yoga to couples yoga. Some studios in your area may offer a free first session if you’ve never been before.
- Enjoy your spa day. Purchase a face mask and bath bomb to do this at home, or head to your local spa for a more sophisticated experience.
- Go on a date outside. Explore new hiking trails, hit the slopes, try ice skating, take horseback riding lessons or cycle around town.
- Try a dance class (Paul, anyone?).
- If you live nearby, head to the hot springs. If not, a sensory deprivation tank, sauna, or hot tub can also help you and your partner relax in the heat and restore your internal energy.
- Go to a rock climbing gym. Test your fear of heights and build new muscles by climbing on dates.
- Host a cooking night. Expand your horizons by making homemade pasta, baking your favorite sweet treats, or enjoying a classic pizza night. You can also take classes at a culinary school near you to provide additional guidance and community.
- Create a care package for the homeless. Put these together and you can have a date night thinking about the privileged areas of your life.
Valentine’s Day Dates for Self-Expansion and Exploration
- Take a photo. You can express your creativity by doing this with a date, friends, family, or yourself. You can dress it up or wear it casually.
- Go on a date to your local art gallery or museum. Consider ways you can give back to local artists.
- Volunteer for a cause. You can support something you or your partner cares about. It’s about taking care of the environment by helping plant trees and protesting to stand up for women’s rights.
- Make your own candles, bath salts, facials and body lotions. You can purchase waxes and other supplies at your local craft store and choose scents that you and your partner will enjoy. You can also find his DIY kits on Etsy if you want to support your small business. Ultimately, keep your creations for yourself or gift them to friends and family.
- Take an art class at a local art studio.
- Create a relationship vision board. If you do this with your partner, try documenting your relationship goals, aspirations, and desires. If you are single, you can do this as a solo activity to recognize what you value in an intimate partnership.
- Visit a local planetarium or botanical garden. You can expand your scientific knowledge and appreciate your love for the natural world around you.
- Decorate your space. Redecorate a room or get creative with a DIY project.
Social & Group Dating
- Have a sip and a paint party. You can split the cost so that some people buy the paint supplies and others pay for the wine.
- Host a clothing exchange or jewelry making event. Take a photo with new outfits and accessories.
- Invite your friends over for a classic movie night or slumber party. You can even rent an Airbnb to extend your long weekend activities.
- do you have a dog? Invite your fellow dog lovers on a dog date and bake some pet-friendly treats. See if any dog-friendly restaurants and patios are open, or go to a dog park to bring the party outside the house.
- Host a potluck, bonfire, brunch, or picnic. You can do this at home, or if you live in a warmer area and don’t need to clean up at your own home later, you can do it at the beach or park.
- Participate in or host trivia or game nights. If you host your own theme, choose a theme specific to your group’s interests and play as a team for even more fun.
- Watch a comedy or impromptu show on your date.
Valentine’s Day Dates That Foster Intimacy
- Peruse the bookstore. Get to know each other by sharing your favorite titles and finally buy each other a book.
- make a time capsule. Please enclose a photo, text, or small keepsake that you and/or your partner can open at a later date (perhaps a future Valentine’s Day).
- Spend the night at the hotel and order room service or enjoy a fine dining experience at a fine dining restaurant.
- Create a calendar or brainstorm plans for the rest of the year. Get excited about the future and start planning the trip you want to take.
- Get and receive massages at home. Excellent for both COVID safety and intimacy.
- Take an adult sex education class, visit a BDSM dungeon or get tickets to a local burlesque show.
- Go to a sex shop and buy a new toy or lingerie to try on later. If you go on a date, you can break up or buy things for each other as a surprise.
- Have a date night with concerts and live music events.
- Write or read a poem, letter, book, or audiobook together. If you feel comfortable, you can listen to erotic voices together.
- Make a list of your relationship values and goals. You can also do this first as a stand-alone activity. Reflect on individual values and goals and brainstorm values and goals within shared relationships. This activity helps you understand your partner’s goals and how you can support them in maintaining their ego in the relationship. (If you’re feeling artistic, you can also combine this with the vision board idea above.)